Next answer, from and image above regarding if I got D16Y or D46Y.
The twinned black wires require you to look through the cover of your relay to see if there is an internal jumper from these two terminals.
Answer - actually there was a small bridge wire between those two. Hence I concluded it is a new relay. But during my investigations (don't ask!) I manage to do a small short circuit which fried that little small bridge wire. Which of course potentially have ruin the head light relay, unless of course it's enough I just do a wire between the two myself. Wouldn't be that difficult to do after all.