There's a recent thread on removing the bolts, and part of the solution was a 50/50 mix of Acetone and ATF - put it on, let it seep in, remove the bolt with a fraction of the torque (you don't want to snap a bolt!)
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There's lots of good stuff about gaskets anti-sieze and alternate bolts you might find useful.
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