Since you said that you can easily select all forward gears when hot, have you tried putting it in first then quickly selecting reverse.
When my clutch was hanging up this would work for me. I couldn't select reverse without going into first and then quickly selecting reverse. Or like you said. I would start it in reverse.
In my case, a long throw slave fixed the problem...
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