I thought that was what winches are for. I mean, I have had plenty of dead cars sent around, and a winch is absolutely necessary for loading AND unloading.
I would be really pissed if that was my car -- so I understand. And yes, there is damage to the pillar -- at least on the insurance claim as you cannot claim this later.
I have been out to Wilkinson's and I am sure Hall is the same way, but Steve has a lot of good doors available. I'm sure he is going to want good money for one, but he does have product at least.
Sorry to hear about your car -- I feel your pain.....